Attention is the concentration of our focus on certain matter in order to receive as much information about that matter as possible. At that moment we pay attention to details and facts, in order to use that information later and through our own reasoning we would try to explain and make sense of that mater. We operate in the same way every moment we conscious, by trying to collect as much information from the environment around us, in order to perceive and reach conclusions about what is going on, inside and outside of us, using our thinking and reasoning. Therefore, as this process takes place naturally, our focus constantly shifts from the world outside to inside our heads.

For example, while walking in the park, reading an interesting book, or listening to some music, we try to ignore other distractions, in order to focus our attention on one specific activity. When we focus our attention to receiving new information about that specific activity that we are interested in, we allow our antimatter energy to increase since this new information that is temporary added to our level-four-antimatter on itself obtains antimatter energy. Any information obtains antimatter energy, because knowledge and information is not made of matter particles, therefore is antimatter.

After receiving this new information we will naturally start the process of thinking and analyzing in order to make sense of that information, and that’s due to the law of resistance. But the moment that we start thinking we also start sorting out this information and start discarding useless and unnecessary information. Hence, we give out antimatter energy.

Any time we think, we think in order to make sense of things that are unknown to us. We use our reasoning to also make decisions about certain things or take certain actions, which are not 100% predictable. If things would be predictable then we would not need to think or reason about them, we would just do them. Hence, we reason and think only when we do not know how the end result will look like and therefore, we need to try visualizing the end results of certain actions. In order to visualize the end results of certain actions we need to sort through facts and information that we received and also use templates to compare these with lessons learned from previously experiencing similar situations. As we process these thoughts and facts and make our decisions, we hope that all that information we received and used to reason, was true and enough to derive the right conclusions.

In conclusion, we think when things are unclear and need to be sorted out. When we think we visualize certain plans and predict certain outcomes and we continue to sort through and discard unnecessary information. During thinking and reasoning we give out antimatter energy. How can we explain that? Here is how: Our brain emits electromagnetic waves when we think. This is a well-known fact. We can even measure these waves. Since thoughts and images created in our brain are non-material things, then they are made of antimatter.

Hence we can say that when we produce a thought inside our brain we must be using antimatter energy to produce it, but when we receive new information we are receiving antimatter energy, which will be used later to produce new thoughts and derive new conclusions.

 

In other words, we are in the giving mode when we think (giving out antimatter energy) and we are in the receiving mode when focus our attention (receiving antimatter energy) to collect new information.

If thinking will cause us to give out some antimatter energy, and receiving new information will allow us to receive more antimatter energy, then we can conclude that any type of thinking, positive or negative, will cause the drainage of our antimatter energy. Indeed, it’s easy to notice in our daily functioning how we feel tired after a while, when we think negatively about our problems, or when we feel too excited and happy about something positive we expect to happen to us. Either way we are thinking and sorting out information and this means wasting our antimatter energy at our level-four-antimatter of the thinking dimension.

Nevertheless, negative thinking is much more strenuous than positive thinking, why is that? That’s because positive thinking triggers positive emotions, negative thinking triggers negative emotions. Positive emotions would recharge us with more antimatter energy, and motivate us to take actions and hoping to see good end results. Negative thinking only drains our energy but does not motivate us to take actions and does energizes us. Antimatter energy lost during our negative thinking is not compensated by the any form of energy like it happens when positive thinking produces positive emotions. Instead, negative thinking will trigger negative emotions which will drain our antimatter energy even more.

Since overthinking our problems does not lead to solutions, instead it creates more problems and we can see now how it happens using the first four laws of antimatter, we can rightly conclude that to break our cycle of overthinking and overanalyzing the facts we need to distract ourselves by temporary shifting our attention away from our problems and start focusing on pleasurable activities like hobbies, socializing, and so on.

This process of giving and receiving antimatter energy is done automatically without us realizing how we switch back and forth from thinking (giving out energy) to paying attention (receiving in energy). It is impossible for a human to stay for too long in any of the modes, giving or receiving, and that’s because of the first law, the law of existence, which means we need to keep the balance between matter and antimatter energies by keeping them at the same rate of proportion at all times. Therefore since humans have a proportion rate to maintain, it is impossible for them to keep giving or to keep receiving antimatter energy longer than what this proportion rake allows them to. Hence, humans are limited at the amount of information they receive and perceive at any given time. That is why comprehension of our reality is always limited to us.

Switching between receiving and giving antimatter energy is common for every human being, but how fast we switch from giving to receiving, and how big is the amount of information we can receive at certain time, that depends on how strong is the energy at our level-four-antimatter is, to support the extra antimatter energy temporary, before it reaches its maximum capacity and starts processing this new information in order to get rid of some of that antimatter energy received at that point. Therefore, the speed of switching between the two modes, varies from one person to another.

It is the application of this law that causes two people to fight for each other’s attention and feel upset when they are not given the opportunity to occupy the spotlight and share their thoughts in a conversation.

Let’s illustrate what I just said above with one simple example, or case scenario that can occur quite often in our daily lives. So for the sake of argument, let’s suppose that you just came home from work, and your attention is all concentrated into trying to compete some house chores. At this moment the phone rings interrupting your normal routine. So, let’s suppose for a moment that one of your friend is calling you because she wants to share something that upset her at work during the day. As you listen to her story your attention is immediately shifted from the house chores to the information your friend is delivering with her story. You are now in the receiving mode, since you are receiving some antimatter energy. However, the new information that your friend is delivering to you, may or may not concern you. Nevertheless, as a result of this increased antimatter energy in you, in your thinking dimension, your working memory located at the front lobe of your brain will start doing its job of sorting and reasoning about this information. You will start thinking and analyzing the new info arrived. As you start thinking you, you start releasing antimatter energy.

We said that this is just a normal process that automatically occurs all the time, however problems arise when your friend doesn’t stop talking to you. She continuously feed you new information. This doesn’t allow you to share your thoughts that you processed earlier, and does not give enough time to process all the information you are receiving, in order to get rid of some of that antimatter energy, because we have a limit at how much information we can receive and process at any given time. As a result of this conflict, we feel overloaded with extra antimatter energy and feel like snapping at our friend in order to get her attention, which will allow us to give out some of our antimatter energy.

Then we can conclude that when we feel irritated or agitated during arguments it’s not because others are draining out our antimatter energy, but quite in contrary; others overload us with antimatter energy (positive, negative, neutral even) and they do not give us the chance to release some of that energy out of our thinking dimension. This irritation can and always lead to arguments.

I used the example of two people that are talking over the phone instead of face-to-face to emphasize the fact that disappointments and arguments happen whether or not these two parties are in the same room, sharing the same space or not. This, therefore proves that exchange of energies between two people does not happen during arguments, and was never the reason for conflicts between people. No one is stealing anyone’s energy, in fact we struggle to give out instead of receiving more energy. Therefore the previous common beliefs that people fight for more energy and steal energy from one another is wrong.

To summarize: Humans do not fight to steal each other’s energy, but in contrary, they fight for the opportunity to give out that antimatter energy. This is the main reason why humans have the tendency to seek attention, that’s because they want to be heard so that they can release some of that antimatter energy and feel good doing this.

In the following I will use another case scenario to illustrate that not only space but also time has absolutely no effect on our antimatter energy and how we decide to receive new information and accumulate it in our level-four-antimatter, but not being able to share our thoughts this will result into irritation and feeling stressed about this information.

So to illustrate the case I mentioned above, let’s imagine that a certain colleague has sent you an offensive e-mail with certain remarks about your performance at work. This new information makes you very upset and angry. Even though this person is not in the same room with you at that moment, he or she “somehow” managed to make you very upset. Your attention is now shifted away from your other daily activities, into thinking about what was written in that email. As a result of this continuous thinking you are constantly giving out your energy and there is no one (in human form) around you to blame him or her for stealing your energy. Then why do you feel irritated and frustrated if no one is fighting to steal you energy? Nevertheless, regardless of the fact that there is no one you can see in the room to blame him or her from stealing your energy, you keep depleting your level-four-antimatter energy because you are constantly triggered to think about that issue. Not only your overthinking reduces your antimatter energy and as the result your whole body’s energy in order to keep the right proportion of energies, but also, this negative thinking produces even more negative emotions. Negative emotions on the other hand trigger more negative emotions, and this cycle can go on and on until the person feels totally exhausted by this waste of energy.

But where does this extra antimatter energy that you produced with your thinking go? We know that energy is never wasted and lost in space, because the first universal law of energy everyone learns in High School is that energy never disappears; it only transforms into other types of energy. But to what other forms of energy is our antimatter energy (released through our thinking) transformed to? We can find a number of possible options to answer this question. First, it makes sense to say that most of the time that energy from our negative thinking will turn inward and will hurt us and cause certain problems in our body. This is possible that negative thinking, as we explained it in part one (Eighth Insight), will cause negative particles to concentrate in some areas of the body. This concentration can trigger chemical reactions which will lead to the production of excessive amount of hormones or toxins in our body that will damage the normal functioning of our organs.  Secondly, there exist the possibility that this extra energy released through our constant thinking is being used by entities other than humans, which feed in our antimatter energy. Unable to see them and their activity we fall victims of their methods that trick into constantly thinking about our problems, or even exaggerate our problems so that we create more conflicts, and more conflicts will create more negative thinking, and more negative thinking means more antimatter energy will be released from us to them.  The question one may want to ask at this point is that if such entities exist how come we do not see them? The reason for this is simple, first of all since these entities feed on antimatter energy then this means that they are mostly made of antimatter and less matter, while we are made mostly of matter and less antimatter. As a result we feed on matter but we constantly produce antimatter and release this energy in the form of thoughts. These other entities, for the sake of balance feed on antimatter energy but must produce more matter energy. A symbiotic relation quite dangerous I must say. The main problem is that we are easily fooled into believing that we must connect with our higher selves and when we believe this crap they can easily represent themselves as gods, higher-selves, angels, or aliens. Take your pick.

In the following I would like to illustrate the application of this law of giving and receiving in one of the most classic common cases, the argument between male and female. Let’s see why and how this law applies to different genders into different ways. Here is how: It is generally argued that men are bad listeners because they always interfere women with criticism or advice when women just want to share their stories or feelings and were not expecting the man to fix their problems or criticize them. This interference on male’s side is often recognized and labeled as a typical male reaction. But why does this happen?

While the woman tells her story, the man is listening very attentively, giving her his full attention. As the man takes his partner’s story very seriously indeed, the man is therefore in the receiving mode. But after he receives enough information about his partner’s story, he will automatically switch into his thinking mode. He then begins to analyze the information he just received. As he switches from receiving mode to giving energy the man starts giving out this energy in the form of opinions and advice, by interrupting woman’s story, which intention is not to receive any advice from him but instead vent out her accumulated antimatter energy. But because the man takes things seriously, he had already switched into giving mode, and he is no longer able to receive any more new information until he has released some of his own antimatter energy. It is for this reason that he will interrupt the woman and giving himself the right to put himself in the spotlight of that conversation instead. What poor men does not know is that often women like to vent about their problems without expecting their feedback or advice in return.

The reason why people like to vent so often is now obvious when you understand how the law of giving and receiving applies. In some cases people like to vent so they can let out some of that antimatter accumulated in them and that makes them feel very uncomfortable until they share it. This is why some people seek attention. There is also another reason why people seek attention and this will be covered later with the Law of Appreciation. In learning about the Law of Appreciation later on, we will discover that the same rule applies again, which is that other people’s attention does not directly add any positive energy in us. However, we will learn that others’ attention can make us think positive about themselves, which then triggers positive emotions that would compensate any energy lost because of our thinking.

Therefore, going back to our case scenario above of the conflict between a man and a woman, we can now conclude that in contrast to the common belief that men are not good listeners, we can say that in fact men are very good listeners, too good for their own good. That is why they interfere the conversation with their advices because they processed that information seriously and earnestly with all their good attentions to help the woman sharing the story.

But what happens when a woman tells her story to another woman, instead of a man? The other woman friend may seem like a better listener than a man because the female friend will not interrupt her friend’s story. She knows that her friend is not really looking for any advice in the matter. The fact that a female friend does not interrupt the other friend’s storytelling may in fact be an indication of a superficial friendship, because the other woman may not care much about what her friend is sharing but she knows what is expected from her. What is expected from her during the storytelling time is simply her cooperation in supporting other woman’s decisions and the right to feel the way she is feeling. In contrary to a man then, another woman instinctively knows that her friend is not waiting for any honest feedback or advice from her, because her friend is simply seeking an audience to share her thoughts and opinions that were accumulated as extra antimatter energy, and that she needs to get it out. And that is what another woman provides to another female friend, not a real support as a good listener, but support as in the role of the audience, which is always ready to echo back what the woman sharing the story needs to hear in order to make her feel good about herself and her decisions.

Now, let’s suppose that two partners, a man and a woman again, are discussing an important issue that really requires each other’s feedback and opinions. In this case woman will not just vent for approval seeking, yet the conflict between the two still is inevitable. So why is that? Here is why.

During their conversation a man and a woman will automatically switch back and forth, between giving and receiving mode, but the conflicts starts the moment one of the partners occupies the spotlight of that conversation for too long, making the other partner feel uncomfortable when forcing that partner to hold his (her) thoughts inside without giving him(her) the opportunity to release the extra antimatter energy accumulated during that time. When this happens the partner can become angry as a result of keeping that extra antimatter energy inside for too long.

We may derive a valuable conclusion here that once we know how this law of giving and receiving works then we can become more attentive to others’ needs to occupy the spotlight too, once in a while during a conversation too. In contrary to the common belief that interrupting someone is rude, now we can see that forcing someone to keep quiet and listening to us nonstop is not right and must considered rude as well.

It is not rude then to interrupt if someone intentionally occupies the spotlight for too long. In fact it will be rude to force others to listen to what one want to say, as if one’s opinions and thoughts are more important that others, unless this other person is in a higher rank in terms of the authority and knowledge, compared to the rest of people in the room. It is normal to conclude that it must be wrong to seek our partners attention all the time, and blame it on them for not giving the other partner’s enough attention, when that partner decided to cheat on him or her with someone else.

To summarize:

  • Asking others to pay attention to what we have to say is to ask them to make us their number one priority. This is rude.
  • When others are forced to pay attention to us, this will cause them to switch into their thinking mode. This thinking process will make them spend more of their energy, even if they don’t want to. This is rude
  • Finally, when we ask for others attention, we ask for their time too. This is rude.

In conclusion we can say that it is completely wrong to hold someone responsible just because they did not give us enough attention. Believing that others are obligated to give us attention will bring disappointment, especially in relationships. The root of any issue in all relationships is the attention. Some people even make the lack of attention as a legitimate excuse for cheating and falling into the arms of another lover. On the other hand, attention truly is very important in a relationship, therefore we need a balance into giving and receiving energy, which requires a balance into giving and receiving attention. This leads us to other laws, the Law of Concentration, the Law of Contra-reaction, and the Law of Appreciation.

 

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