Doubt everything, is a sound advice to prevent becoming a victim of manipulation, because as theories suggest, we humans can be categorized in two big groups, that of naturally skeptics and that of naturally gullible. And because of this natural tendency in us, some people are prone to be more optimistic or pessimistic than others. This categorization is supported by many studies done in the field of psychology. However, even though these studies agree that some people tend to be more optimistic, while others have a natural tendency to be more pessimistic, yet, these studies do not seem to agree on what causes such tendencies in us. One school of thought, called the Explanatory Style, supports the idea that choices that we make and the tendencies that we form are based on our previous experiences, (pretty much Freud believed the same). The other school of thought, called the Disposition Optimism defines optimism or pessimism as a personality trait that people are born like this. And some supporters of this theory go even further believing that being optimistic or pessimistic it must depend on your DNA, of how you are made of, and there is nothing you can do about it. Based on these two schools of thoughts, it is right to believe that either psychotherapy will help in improving one’s negative tendencies in life, which often lead to mental disorders, or that only prescribed pills will be the way to help someone overcoming the negative tendency or fighting depression by helping them balance the disarray of chemicals in their body caused by their DNA structure. Many now believe that both streams are correct, and some people can use both methods if needed. So what is the truth then? Are we humans naturally gullible because of our DNA, or naturally gullible because of the experiences we go through life that makes us believe in things we do not see or that we cannot prove their existence, like gods, angels, demons, archetypes, aliens, or life after death? Or is it quite the opposite that we humans are naturally skeptical because of our DNA, which makes us all philosophers by nature? And quite frankly, it could be this the reason why we start an argument for every little thing that we believe we are right and others are wrong. Or is it that we are skeptical because of the experiences that we went through as a human society and so we developed to see that what we once believed to be mystical or supernatural, like thunder, rain, and sunrise, are in fact phenomena that science can explain, therefore are quite natural and there is nothing supernatural in them? Some of the readers are probably nodding their heads, saying that it could be any of those above, or it could be a little bit of everything, a mix of things. So at this point we created so much doubt and we can safely conclude that nothing is absolutely true. But what about science, you may ask. Science is always true, and scientific facts do not lie, right? Science is based on facts, measurable facts, and that’s what makes science seem as if it stands on stronger grounds than any religion and dogmas that these gullible people (either as a result of their DNA or of their experiences in life) tend to believe in. But I dare to say that in fact, science in itself is a religion, a very credible religion for that matter, but just as dangerous as the extreme religions. Let me explain this in the following.
When we say light has a dual nature, we are saying that light is made of photons which are particles, and light is also made of electromagnetic energy which is not a particle. As such, light is both a particle and not particle. To reach this conclusion scientists had to go through many years of studying, researching, experimenting and arguing, and because of this struggle of opposite opinions, the lives of many scientists who tried to prove one theory or the other probably became like hell. Not only these scientists had to prove something that they strongly believed in, and that challenged other previous known theories, but also they had to save their sanity along with their reputation while they worked on finding enough evidence to support their theories. But, let’s suppose for a second that science is always right in the end, and the reason why science takes this long to discover things is because we are limited of knowledge, devices and of technology, otherwise we would be able to discover the truth and reach the absolute right conclusions much faster, by using these measurements and scientific formulas. But now I would ask you this question, “How can we make sure that these formulas are right?” Some fanatic scientist, just like some fanatic of extremist religions, would now argue that I am either blind or I am dumb (or evil), because this is easy to tell and here is how: If some formula works the same for everything in the nature than this formula is right. But I would ask again (because I am really dumb or evil) “What nature are we talking about? The one that we see or the one that we do not see, and that by induction or statistic we conclude that everything in the universe works just the same?”
Indeed this is the strongest debate nowadays among the scientists, whether dark matter exists or not? Dark matter is not something we see for sure or that we have any proof that exists, yet many scientific theories are based on this assumption. Let me make this simple for the average reader. Dark matter is an assumption that some scientists made years ago. The assumption came from their observations of how light behaves around some cluster of stars in a faraway galaxy. Light seemed to bend as it approaches these areas of the universe, which as we know here on earth is not how light should behave. So this phenomena made the scientists conclude that these galaxies must have a greater gravity, therefore more mass than other galaxies, to the point that they can even pull the light and deviate it from its straight path (as we know it on earth, I want to emphasize this again). But for the gravity to change the light’s path we must first accept that light is made of particles, and we must also assume that gravity affects only particles, and we must also assume that gravity is caused by matter, which also needs us to assume that all matter is made of particles and particles only. Wow, that was a long, long line of assumptions; I almost run out of breath. And so it goes for science, we make so many conclusions and deductions, one after the other, based on a long list of assumptions.
So you can see now that even science cannot be as reliable as scientists declare it to be. It is true that science, in some aspects, is better than religious dogmas, because when we use scientific facts to argue about the truthfulness of events and phenomena we do not say like stubborn religious fanatics say, “Trusts us it works, have faith this formula works.” In fact scientists can show you the measurements and formulas and numbers and that is what makes them confident on what they conclude. But, we must be careful and reexamine again the very first assumptions and algorithms on which we based these formulas and measurements to begin with. Reassessing the very first assumptions to derive further conclusions is a necessity. Being skeptical of what you are told and facts that others serve you is crucial. Some facts or evidence may seem legit, or may seem obvious or may seem scientific therefore true, just because someone uses a bunch of formulas and arguments to distract you, but all these facts may be pure illusions. So how and where do you draw the line? Can we just go on like this for ever and ever, doubting everything we see and hear? I think there are some ways to tell whether things must be trusted. First, we must constantly remind ourselves about our human history, which painfully taught us in every step of the way, that nothing is absolutely true. Some things or facts are true and some are not. Some theories (scientific or not) may offer some truth, but not the whole truth, no matter how much they swear in their truthfulness. Second, it also depends on the perspective; on the angle from which you see a problem. This brings us to the point that algorithms we use to resolve problems, are not always true, and do not work the same for everyone or for every case.
I had to teach my students in my psychology class the other day, about what algorithm is, when I had to explain to them how we humans think. We think with our brains, what is there to know about, right? Indeed, we use our brains and in this brain there are different parts where the information is stored. When we want to derive a conclusion or make any decision we pull this information from our permanent memory, located at the back of our brain, and bring it to our temporary memory (or also called working memory) located at the front lobe of our brain. Temporary memory is, as its name says it, temporary. Therefore, it does not save any information, but it only analysis it, derives conclusions,and then these conclusions will be stored away, and saved in our permanent memory. When such conclusions are constantly repeated then these conclusions (right or wrong) become our heuristic ideas, as we call it in psychology. These heuristic ideas run and/or ruin our lives, because we could be holding as truths some ideas that may be quite wrong, but we trust them just because they feel so familiar when they constantly repeat in our lives, or are constantly fed to us through media or religion for example. We become so used to them that we start believing that these ideas are absolutely true. We may even look for evidence to prove ourselves right about what we chose to believe, because being right about our choices makes us feel good. The same goes for the algorithms. Even though algorithms, like the scientific facts, have somehow a better reputation than these heuristic ideas, still we must not put total faith in them. So what is an algorithm? Algorithm is defined as a list of steps that has been proven to be working in resolving specific matter. Because using these algorithms has given us positive results in the past, we conclude that if we had to follow these steps again, then certain matters will always be resolved. We conclude that this list of steps (algorithm), which always worked well for us before, or that seem to be working well for many other people in resolving the same problem, it must always be true. And that’s where we go wrong. Just because an algorithm worked for me many times, or worked for many others on resolving the same matter, this does not mean that algorithm is universal and absolutely true. It is completely wrong to assume that. This assumption comes as a result of our minds’ tendency to generalize things by using induction, and this is our default error.
We humans tend to generalize things and use induction awfully a lot. It is this inductive thinking that makes us so stubborn in protecting the choices that we make, and drives us to believe that just because something seems right to us, by induction then we are always right and others are wrong. We even conclude that if something works for us, by induction then it must work for others too. These other people must also use the same algorithm as we do in resolving their matters, otherwise they must be wrong. We tend to see black or white because we believe in algorithms. In my psychology lesson I wanted my students to understand that algorithms (or norms, or standards that society, culture, religions or any type of divisions, enforces in us) are very dangerous if we take them literally, just like heuristic ideas are. Therefore, we must not consider algorithms (or norms, or standards by culture or religion) very credible. To understand how dangerous it may be to believe that all algorithms are right and they all work the same way for every one, I asked my students to imagine that they were aliens that just arrived on earth, and are here to observe how humans run things, here on earth. I asked them to imagine that in their planets 1+1 is not equal 2, as we believe to be true for us on earth, because for aliens + sign stands for multiplications, and for adding they use a different symbol. Therefore, when they see our children doing 1+1=2 and their teacher praising them for this answer by giving children stickers, these aliens will pull their hair (if they have any hair). They will conclude that we are some dumb beings, because according to their algorithm 1+1=1 not 2. So, when do you draw the line and question what you know and what you don’t know? What works and what does not work? What is true and what is a lie? What is right and what is wrong? What is constructive and what is destructive? What is good because of greater goods and what is evil? You see, it all depends on the perspectives. Therefore, we can conclude that there is no higher being that could know more about us that we know about ourselves. As such, we must be smart to conclude that if it hurts us doing certain things, then these certain things are not good for us, no matter how they may be sugarcoated as higher purposes, or in the name of greater goods.
Becoming aware of the fact that perspectives can change how we see and perceive things, and becoming aware that we cannot trust algorithms, or scientific theories, as always true, just like we cannot trust standards set by culture and morals set by religious dogmas as true either, then we must be careful not to be fooled by these many illusions. It is right then to doubt every piece of information, and it is right to follow your guts, and vibes, and passions, and dreams, but we must also apply caution about the direction we take to fulfill our dreams. So, how can we tell what is the right thing to do? I use what I call the rule of thumb: If it is too much pain then it is not the right thing to do. Stop it immediately and reassess the situation. Often we argue that pain is good, and we even say, “No pain, no gain.” But this is not always true. Some pain, as long as it is tolerated and does not cause too much distress may be OK, but this pain better bring some positive results, otherwise it will be fair to conclude that there could be some evil and sinister reasons to cause pain on ourselves or others just for the sake of it, without any obvious and measurable results. My two cents on this: Be careful and watch out for those who tell you that pain is good for you and you will see the result later on, and later on, be patient, and be patient, on and on and on, one excuse after the other. Everything must have a limit, so you better draw your limits before you are totally drained of your energy by believing in such beautiful and convincing lies. It is this rule of thumb I constantly apply in my daily life, that helps me regain sight of what I am doing and where I am going with my dreams and my plans. It is this rule of thumb that keeps me grounded and keeps me sane in this world full of deception. It is this rule of thumb that makes me rock the boat the last minute and change my plans if I have to, and that makes me unpredictable, which also enables me to survive. But all this became clear and useful for me only when I started to understand what destiny really is.
I believe now that destiny is a universal law, and if we understand what destiny truly is then we would conclude that destiny is the natural flow of events that either helps creating order and routines, or helps us destroy previous orders and unhelpful routines that will no longer work for us in a new arrangement of things in the universe. If we all would understand destiny, we would not go against it, because destiny helps keeping the balance of energies in the entire universe, as well as in this part of the universe where we belong and operate. Destiny is a universal force that knows how things must be arranged or rearranged in order to create or recreate, but whatever the case is, destiny is never evil or painful; it’s only misunderstood or misinterpreted. Destiny, if allowed to unfold peacefully, does not cause harm and does not have to be painful, because destiny is like the life force that makes us grow, just like air and water and sun make the plant grow. Hence, when we grow, even though this change pushes us away from our comfort zone, this change does not have to be a painful change; it has to be and feel natural. However, if we would try to stop the change that destiny brings with it, we then cause pain, and this is how we cause destruction. Therefore, we are the one to blame for the pain and for these consequences when we try to stop our destiny from taking place. It is not the destiny’s fault, it is our fault.
But, how would we know, how can we tell again that we are going against destiny? You would know that you are going against such force, the destiny, if you have to apply an extra force to oppose the flow of events in your life. As you apply this extra force, this requires extra efforts, and when these extra efforts become too painful to handle then it is time to let go of things that you are holding so dear and so tight. This is the time to reassess the facts that you know, or what others have served to you as real facts. It’s like that song that Ricky Martin sings, “If it feels right, just let it go.” I take this as an advice that if it’s too hard to hold on certain things, or pushing into certain direction, than it is time to let go; let go of things and plans you’ve made. Indeed, if what you’re doing does not feel right, and it makes your consciousness toss and turn, then just this is the right tool to judge right from wrong. We do not need religion to tell us what is right or wrong, just like we do not always need scientific evidence to know if things are real, because we are made to know the truth by how it feels to us. The moment that you (and the same thing goes for me or any other human on this planet) are aware that what you are doing can hurt someone, you then know right from wrong, and no matter how much you may justify your actions. Consciousness is always aware of the fact that you are lying about your actions, if that’s the case, and if you have noticed, there is no better judge than our own consciousness. No religion, or scientific formula can beat that. Our consciousness is the best judge because our consciousness is a magnetic field therefore is connected with the universe. As a result our consciousness is very sensitive to the life force of destiny that affects the entire universe, including the electromagnetic energy of our consciousness. Hence, when you are aware that you are doing something wrong, then not only your consciousness, but also the whole magnetic field of the entire universe, inside of which we reside, will know the truth of such actions. That is why you will constantly receive signals from the universe in the from of random events and random encounters that will try to stop you from advancing with your plans; and that’s because there is no way of hiding your consciousness’ electromagnetic energy from the entire electromagnetic energy of the universe that has already received the effects of your actions and of your knowing. That is why we feel pain and guilt when we receive such reminders from the universe in the form of random encounters, and this is why we tend to deny or repress the guilty feelings, because the pain of accepting our faults is very hard, but it is nevertheless the only right thing to do.
We can of course lie to ourselves and lie to others too, if we only fear other people’s judgments rather than this force field that runs the entire universe. We do have the power to individually mess up with other people’s lives, but for how long can we do this? We must not forget that if we mess up with destiny we must also expect the consequences, because destiny is not some reasonable being that can forgive us if we say sorry, or that can forget things, or that can be fooled in some ways. Destiny is just energy; it does not reason, therefore it cannot be manipulated, but it can be delayed. At some point however, one must face the consequences of their actions, for causing unnecessary delays, when one applied either violence or manipulation to oppose the fulfillment of destiny. The more the destiny is delayed, the worse it gets, the stronger and harder the consequences. It’s like a spring that you keep pressing down with your finger to prevent it from popping up. But how long can you hold it like that without causing some pain on your fingers? At some point you will let it go and at that point the spring will shoot up high and very violently too, which may cause lots of damage at that point, depending where it lands or what it hits. This is how destiny works too, and this is why in my life I never tried to fix things for myself, or run after others for revenge. I don’t have to, because destiny fixes these things for me. I only make sure not to cause any harm to anyone, knowingly and willingly. I make sure that I have a clear consciousness at all times, not by denying the facts but by constantly questioning my actions and my beliefs. Yes I constantly doubt myself and everything else, but I also trust. I trust destiny not as a higher being, because it is not a being and it cannot reason, but because it is a life force that exists and no one can explain why it exists or can manipulate it. This energy field (force) just is, like space and time are too. And so, when in doubts I wish for things to fall into their places and then let my destiny, this invisible force to deal with things. Those close friends of mine and family members that have witnessed the power of such prayer/wishes when i prayed for them, they have total trust in this force too, because they have seen it work. And no, I am not special, and I do not have superpowers (that would be totally crazy to believe in such thing). I just believe in destiny because I know how this magnetic field works, and I explain it in my theory of antimatter, but you don’t need the whole scientific proof to benefit from it. Just make the wish for things to be arranged in your life as they are meant to be, which is already known by your destiny and is the best arrangement for you, and you will see it happen. Give it a try, I dare you.