Forcing others’ attention creates contra-reactions.

Scientifically speaking, work is only performed when some energy is spent. The formula used in physics to express this fact is W= ∆E (Change of Energies). Producing thoughts, learning, arriving conclusions, analyzing facts etc., these are all examples of intellectual work, therefore they require some energy to be spend in order for them to be performed. I previously called it antimatter energy, the energy spent in producing non-material products. As why I decided to specify this as antimatter energy and these products as antimatter itself, I have already explained it in my other book The Truth. You probably have noticed that when you constantly think about your problems without finding a solution, it makes you tired, same as if you have performed physical work. That’s because intellectual work also requires us to spend energy. As I mentioned it earlier in the Law of Existence, matter and antimatter are connected and stay attached when certain proportion rate, typical for humans, of matter and antimatter energies is maintained at all times. This proportion rate might be and it should be different in different living beings that are not humans. Some beings may have a higher proportion rates than us and some others lower than us. This means that when we lose some of our antimatter energy, when we perform intellectual work, we also lose matter energy in order to maintain the same proportion rate of energies. As a result of loosing of matter and antimatter energy the human individual will feel irritated, nervous and unhappy.

So, when we say that people usually act out when they crave attention, this is true, and this law can explain why and how receiving attention makes people feel better. Following the logical explanation of the previous laws of antimatter I concluded that people crave attention because they want to stop the drainage of their antimatter energy, but they don’t know how to. When people pay attention to us, this makes us feel good because this attention will trigger some positive thinking about ourselves. The moment we occupy the spotlight, we feel worthy and validated. Because of this good impact of others’ attention on us, we automatically look for others’ attention every time we feel drained out of energy. This habit in fact is formed from the very first moments we come to life. When the parent or the caregiver holds the baby in their arms as a response to baby’s crying and discomfort, then babies learn to associate the receiving of other’s attention with feeling good and secure, and this reaction is automatic and inevitable.

When someone becomes an ongoing distraction for others like for example his/her family members, friends, or coworkers by constantly asking for others’ attention then according to the Law of Concentration these distractions will lower these people’s pressure of antimatter. As a result not only people will feel the loss of energy but they will accomplish less and less of their own tasks or duties. They will, rightly so, start feeling irritated and tired. Not being able to accomplish their jobs on time will make these people think negative and blame themselves for not being able to complete their tasks. At that moment these people, originally affected by the nagging and the ongoing complaints of their friend, or partner or any other family member, will start feeling the need for others’ attention too, with the hope that this attention will make them feel positive about themselves and will restore the feeling that they are worthy. Nevertheless, this is the moment when the battle for attention will start among partners, family members, friends, or coworkers.

This whole process can be summarized by the Law of Contra-reactions. In classical mechanic in physics this law is known as the third law of Newton which states that for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. If you would imagine two people holding the opposite ends of a rope it is then easy to imagine that if one decides to pull the rope on his direction the other person at the other end will resist it with the same force by pulling his end of the rope on his direction. All that happens, it happens instinctively, automatically, unconsciously, for the sake of keeping the balance of energies.

Using this law it becomes easy to explain why arguments accelerate from normal conversations to raising the voice, to making angry gestures until they turn into physical fights. When one of the parties in the argument wants the other party’s attention then a form of distraction, in order to get the other’s attention, is the raising of the voice. As a result of the Law of Contra-Reaction the other person would do the same, raise the voice in the same way. However, after a while the loud voice is no longer a distraction; loud voice is expected. When the voices do not create distraction any more, then, people involved in the argument, would use gestures to create a distraction for the other party. And, when the voice (audio distraction) and gestures (visual distraction) no longer present surprising factors, then, opponents move to physical fights (distraction caused by touching). In conclusion we can say that conflicts can always accelerate to more aggressive debates because of the need for attention which triggers a contra-reaction. Thus, the only way to avoid becoming a victim of this law is to discontinue loud discussions that have the potential to turn into violent arguments as a necessity to avoid further conflicts. Keep in mind that by forcing your ideas on others you will never succeed to win any argument.

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